Monday, 29 August 2016

Accepting just as it is?

My sister sent me a random message today! The message was disjointed and just fueled my annoyance a bit.

It was a supposedly congratulatory message even though the word congratulations didn't feature in it! Three weeks after my little one arrived. Am i such a bad sibling?

The relationship has been strained for years i admit. I have my shortcomings but the gap has largely stemmed from her not accepting her wrong doing and insisting she didn't behave so badly. Unfortunately my other siblings haven't been so vocal on the subject. I have and i have even attempted several reconciliatory meetings. I gave up after the last one where she kept her nose in the air and still kept justifying her actions!!!!

I feel disappointed particularly in the light of the many sacrifices i made for her over the years. Again i'm sure along the way i probably had a few slip ups to. And i have apologised for as many as i have remembered.

Her husband said to me once that she feels aggrieved on some matters and i asked him how i was to make ammends if she doesn't bring it to the fore!

my older brother says that we must operate with people on thier level and be accepting of people as they are! So for eg if she insists that on the matter that caused the strain and some of her subsequent actions she is right then we should let it be and operate with her on that level.

So i ask myself, am i supposed to respond to her message and pretend it doesn't upset me????????

Really i feel soooo sooo annoyed here right now!

Again i'm likely to be told to suck it up after all her greeting me or not greeting me doesn't change the price of fish in the market!

But should this be so?????

Phew..... it's all out! Feel better somewhat

Monday, 22 August 2016

My husband!

This economy can just disgrace someone sha! Found myself picking some nail polish in a cheap store and my bill was 5 dollars, my brain somehow converted to naira and i was like "huh three nail polish for N1500*, i'm not buying biko" ... Mcheeewww

May God see us through this period oh! We didn't have a Joseph to dream and warn us of tough times ahead! It is well.

Lemme go onto my husband matters *eyes flutter*

Recently met someone, very nice lady. She's got a great family as well. They've been married for a bit and seem like a regular happy family. What i find intriguing and amusing is the way the wife punctuates her sentences with *my sweerat*! As in we are having a convo and she wants to randomly refer to her mr and where i would say hubby's name she says (for eg) * i was telling my sweerat that we are going to the mall*.Sometimes i find it quite amusing but then i wonder why?. is she trying to affirm to me that she loves her lover???? :D

Another dear friend used to punctuate sentences with my husband when she first got married of course by the time they settled into the marriage and issues of life caught up with them, she changed his name to his name :D

I would call my partner/spouse/boyfriend a pet name only when we are alone or if i'm conversing with him or better still during nooky!!!!

Be like say something dey do me today oh LOL Hmmmmm

I keep wondering what it's like to date a man like Usain Bolt.. you know ;) such strength!!!!!!!

Meanwhile why are female athletes literally naked in their outfits? The same sports their male counterparts are able to cover their privates now. Abi? All their buttocks will just be out there, quite distasteful abeg..

Recently stumbled on one BBC feature/video called Lagos to London, it was published some months back  and though i heard of it, i never got to watch it. Nigerians are trying oh! Almost had headache after watching the thing! Imagine Toke Makinwa spending 5000pounds in one shopping spree! chai. Then some boys talking about thousands of pounds on party!!!!! Where were they when i was single and searching for a man? Couldn't they toast me? Mcheeeewwwww

We are moving homes! really happy at that, quite tired of my present flat especially since i was told that a co-tenant is a *commercial diabolical spiritualist* i.e he offers fetish services to people! I heard he even slaughters birds in his flat... Hian

I'm just happy to be moving abeg, i have small small children who play around the compound. May God protect us all.

Going to finish off my breakfast of oatmeal.... yep trying to be healthy these days :D

Monday, 15 August 2016

Baby news!

Baby's finally here :D

I give God all the glory.

It's a boy, the third boy LOL.

I'm sleep deprived and trying to get the hang of it all again. The past two weeks have been exhilarating. I'm not in my home environment so not as settled as i'd like but still i'm thankful and happy for everything God has blessed me with right now.

I'm giving exclusive breast feeding a trial. Gave it a shot with no 2 but not as seriously as i should have. So help me God this time. I had to give a few ml of formula on day 1 and 2 though because my supply was still low and so on.

I'm calmer this time too and the crying doesn't bother me or i don't feel frustrated. I'm not praying as much as i should but again God will help me, i can only get better. I guess at the time bobo refuses to sleep in the night i better just buckle up on prayers.....

I have also decided to take it easy and not pressure myself unnecessarily so for eg we bathe when we bathe ;) no pressure of baby must be washed day and night.....

Lemme go and check on the small mr!

Friday, 29 July 2016

Lots and lots to say!

Kai this my old age belle na wa oh!

i'm literally at my wits ends just waiting for baby to pop!. I'm so so bored and my phone plus ipad have decided to stop functioning. this is me who isn't working at the moment. Over and above the lecture i got from mr on how wasteful i am *rolls eyes*

The economy is bringing out all sorts of sides from everyone. Don't completely blame him his plate and hands truly are full right now!

We are moving homes soon, i'm looking forward to starting life afresh. the neighbourhood is sort of rural though but i will do all i can to make me and the boys comfy. we will have to look for creative ways to entertain ourselves....

A couple of my friends spent hundreds of thousands fixing curtains for their homes just the living room oh! I was sure at the time they were just being extravagant. This shall not be my portion..... Mine had better cost far less oh!

I'm torn between looking for employment once i have the baby or staying home for at least a year to care properly for the children. Don't even want a maid for now, all that talking i did with my last maid has worn me out. So help me God, the bright side of having a baby and doing all the chores and cooking alone is the attendant weight loss. I'm just going to have to plan, prioritise and be organised.

Two of my former colleagues were found to be involved in a huge fraud/scam. The amounts involved are millions of naira. I had always known they were shady characters but my boss isn't one to approach with such suspicions and besides one of the people was literally his heartthrob. He would practically have an orgasm just calling the fellow's name :D! one of my concerns on the subject is how these fellows would relay the incident and subsequent loss of jobs to their wives. One has even fled abroad!  i imagine them saying things like "honey i did it for the family" or "i'm sorry"? Really i wonder sha. then the wife is she supposed/expected to quit the marriage? Or support as in for better for worse. Then again the wives involved did enjoy the proceeds of the fraud. i'm sure they both knew their husbands were spending and living far above their means. Abi could they have not known?

One of the highlights* of this fraud case for me is the overall boss and the finance people. You should see them scrutinizing one thousand naira expenses and generally monitoring the usage of morning fresh/handwash/toilet roll in the office. Meanwhile millions of cash were being stolen over a period of a year and they had no damn clue!!!!!!

Let me split this my gist into two.... Will be back soon;)

Tuesday, 10 May 2016

Breather part 2

so far so good with this staying at home meme. I've spent a lot of the time musing about the past though and I am filled with many regrets at the wasted time and lost opportunities because I just have not been settled enough to enjoy or even live life as if were.
been so so consumed by my challenges at work and at home. Sad part is the effect some of these issues seem to have impacted on my boys. God helping me I am slowly and indeed steadily giving my life a shape once again. The house is being restored.... Finally I must add! Didn't realise the heap of junk I had accumulated and was hanging onto. Spoilt appliances that I could have repaired or discarded. Chai its sad when one is in a marriage but not married!


This late Mrs Shonde matter though not a new type of scenario these days has left me pondering at what point exactly does love turn to hate so much so that there will be physical engagement until the other party gets hurt. I initially assumed that it was a fight gone wrong.as per they were arguing and a few slaps occured and she rushed him but fell and broke her skull. Then I stumbled or rather joined a forum where many victims of domestic violence are sharing their experiences. A couple of them have said their spouses actually indicated that they so hated them I.e the wives they wanted to kill them. One said her hubby asked the children to visit a neighbour and he doused her with fuel then lit a cigarette. Another said the hubby keeps aiming for her face with a cutlass. All sorts of horrendous experiences out there. I just don't understand how a relationship would degenerate to that level!


my marriage hasn't been smooth so I'm.not coming from a judgemental angle. I keep saying perhaps if we had known each other for a longer period I wont have married him as we are most incompatible. But some of these people have dated and known their spouses for years before marriage. One's husband even said he would kill her and dump on a gutter then tell family members he just couldn't find her! That's just wicked no evil. To your purported lover?


God help  we women in D.V matters oh!












 

Thursday, 10 March 2016

Breather!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Can't believe i'm only just typing my first post for the year in March.

Na wa oh!

It's amazing how we can get so so caught up with life and activities!

I had to take a sudden and hard decision. I quit my job!!!

Too many issues kept cropping up and i was sad and miserable. My whole life just seemed to be spiraling further out of control.

Coupled with the fact that at the end of last year i found out i was expecting a baby again.

I'm hoping the time out before baby's arrival will help me put things in perspective and get a grip towards starting over and so on!


Thursday, 3 December 2015

Master toilet?

Not sure what the landlord was thinking really but this is what the toilet and bathroom in the master bedroom of our former  house looks like!!!!